Each child, because of differences in age and life experience, will view the move differently. An infant, of course, will be least affected. As long as he is comfortable and his normal routine isn't disrupted too much, he won't be concerned.
But the pre-school child can pose a real problem. His sense of identity relies on his parents, the family routine, and several objects that are special to him. When he sees his favorite toys being packed and put away, his crib being dismantled, and his mother rushing about with apparently little time to spend with him, he begins to worry. One of his greatest fears is that he will be left behind.
The temptation may be great to send your pre-schooler to a babysitter during the move, but he will feel a lot better if you let him stay with you. Let him pack and tote along some of his special possessions (do not discard any of them before the move, no matter how old and tattered they are).
The grade school-age child has a more highly developed sense of self since his world extends beyond the family circle. His developing sense of discovery may make the idea of moving exciting to him. While he will go leaving friends, they will not be the deep, vital friendships of older children. The expressed concerns of a grade schooler usually deal with how well he will fit into where he is going.
The teenager, of course, usually has enough problems even in a stable environment. Social activities and friends have by this time overshadowed the family as sources of identity. Frank discussion with your teenager may provide clues on how you can help him without seeming too "pushy." Help him track down organizations and groups in the new area that are involved in activities that interest him. Encourage him to bring new friends to your home, even if the house isn't yet as presentable as you might like.
Since school provides a major orientation for children, another important factor is: